I used the profile feature within P411 at first, however, once companions have an ID, they can check back to monitor activities, if in a limited sense (e.g., whom a client might later see, changes to a profile, etc). This happened after I had moved on and was uncomfortable. I wanted to limit who might see what, and when. A random/hidden wordpress blog with password-protected posts was a better solution.

The blog was very useful for communicating elements of an encounter that one would not want in an email between client and companion. While that added layer of insulation can be easily broken, it is better than email. It becomes easier for a companion to make a more detailed shopping list. One can be explicit (tastefully, of course) on a wider range of topics with less concern for the discussion being connected directly back to the client. And with less concern for implicating the companion as a prostitute in the minds of the overzealous if either of us were compromised. Not zero concern for either. Less concern for both, if done right.

The blog became one way for making myself and my desires known while limiting visibility, at least to some degree, assuming the companion is discreet. A year-long series of multi-day encounters running well into five figures with a companion involves a significant amount of time just getting to know one another before any serious exploration is possible. Theoretically, the more she knows in advance, the less non-productive time I pay for. Note that I did not say that I expected to pay less; only that the time that I pay for would be more satisfying.

Practically, the concept failed. I could not devote enough time to round out the fiction. Without a large enough body of writing, my companion could not make the leap from the desires I could communicate to the desires that I could not. It takes significant time and effort on her part to read and to consider; to find the themes and patterns that I myself do not see. I hoped for her to have the “ahh-haa…” moment that would mark the beginning of her knowing more about me than I know about myself. The experiences beyond that turning point would (I thought) tend towards peak experiences: unusually satisfying for no reason I could explain. And perhaps for no reason she could explain other than as a product of raw intuition. The experience would feel as though she understood how to fulfill my deepest desires in ways that I could not myself comprehend. A loose analogy might be: the experience an unsophisticated person might have upon meeting a savvy marketeer and discovering all that he or she did not know about human psychology. Even surprise awareness would not substitute for the deep intuition of one who has long studied and practiced.

Without enough fiction to go on, there was not as much “interaction” as I anticipated, e.g., comments like “what did you mean by this?” or “I would really enjoy that” or “I just wouldn’t be interested in that.” The resulting encounters were satisfying on a literal and superficial level. I would say these limitations resulted from two sources, one being the companions’ inability or unwillingness to engage the adventure; the second being my unwillingness to devote enough time in creating enough content to make a difference in the outcome.

A wry wit might warble, why not just talk to her about what you want? Great idea. The answer is obvious, but to be explicit: because so far the result has been literal and superficial. The experience becomes little more than “sure, I can do that for you.” That just isn’t worth paying for. If you still don’t understand what I am saying, not to worry; so far, no woman has even tried to undertake the journey, at any price level, though I think I have been reasonably clear about what I think that journey involves. The fault is surely mine but I am not able to see the solution.

Taking “the illusion” to it’s logical conclusion means having the physical, emotional, and psychological content of real encounters be indistinguishable in the mind of the client from the fantasies that led to those encounters. Communication at a literal level won’t get it done. A body of writing could be an effective tool for reaching deeper into each other’s ’sexual psyche’. My attempt to beat the odds against finding the 1-in-10,000 companion I am looking for, failed, and I have given up trying. That doesn’t mean it won’t work. Only that I couldn’t make it work with the companions I chose.

If someone else tries it, I hope you fare much better.

I’d be inclined to agree with you.

(Or maybe I just never heard back from those who had researched me. :) )

I’m glad you said that because I would have. Jokingly, of course.

I agree with your points, though.

That’s the kicker. :) I suspect that a lot of ladies DON’T take the time to read what a prospective client posts, whether that’s on a profile on a system like P411 or in a blog. Or, in some cases, even read what the prospective client posts in discussion forums on major boards or the reviews he writes. I can recall only a couple of ladies I’ve seen in the past several years who indicated that they had done such “research” before seeing me. (Or maybe I just never heard back from those who had researched me. :) )

For a lot of the ladies, that’s understandable. Absent something that is much more focused, and reliable, it could take hours to effectively research a single guy. Many ladies won’t be able to afford the time to do such research on every prospective client. Others may simply not care — only concerned that he’s not LE or a dangerous psycho or liable to short the envelope.