One of the “rules” on my web site states that there can be no discussion about specific sex acts before we meet, either on the phone or via e-mail. There are several reasons for this, not the least of which is avoiding being entrapped in a prostitution sting. If I agree to swallow your cock for a fee, I’ve violated California’s solicitation and prostitution laws. That could involve a large suckage factor of the unpleasant variety.
The disclaimer on the entrance to my web site states that:
All monies exchanged are for time and companionship only. Legal Notice: With reference to California Penal Code Section 647 (b) and CALJIC No. 16.420, the services discussed herein do not include or in any way relate to either (1) engagement in any lewd act for money or other consideration, or (2) solicitation, offer, or agreement to engage in any lewd act for money or other consideration.
And while it is quite probable you’ll find your cock inside me during our appointment if that’s what you want to do, that is not necessarily the case. That’s what the disclaimer states for all intents and purposes. You’re paying for my time and companionship, and what we elect to do during our time together is our business. I am by no means promising you that we’re going to fuck, or do anything else in particular for that matter. Of course, I do have my 100% satisfaction guarantee, so if you’re not happy with how the appointment turned out in the end, well, I’ll refund your money. 
The obvious downside to this is that the client has no way of knowing what kind of sex acts I’ll allow him to do until I get to his location. This is exacerbated by the fact that I prohibit reviews of my appointments. For most other providers, a client can log in to one of the review boards and read what others have had to say about which activities the provider will engage in. There’s a checklist on most of them and a quick scan will reveal whether or not a provider does BBBJs, allows DATY, allow clients to cum in their mouths, does anal, rims, and so forth. For me, none of that information is directly available. If you select who you see based on things like whether or not she’ll stick her tongue in your ass (and some people do), then you’re at a disadvantage when it comes to evaluating whether or not you want to book an appointment with me.
In a situation where a client is laying out a couple of hundred dollars that may not be too much of a problem for him. But when he’s expected to fork over $500 an hour, he’s got a little more interest in figuring out if he wants to lay down that kind of coin without knowing for sure. I usually attempt to allay those concerns by addressing my philosophies on sexuality in broad terms. Between that and the way I represent the nature of my work on the web site, the client should be able to get an idea that I am pretty free with my sexuality when it comes to appointments. As they say, though, the proof is in the pudding. I am judged by my clients based on my performance, intellectually and physically. Part of that is my extent of play; how far will I allow a client to go?
Once I get inside with my client, I take care of the business end of the proceedings. I’ll take the envelope, go into the bathroom, make sure everything is in order, and change into some lingerie or whatever the client has requested I wear. Some have asked me to come out naked, some want me in “something slutty,” some want thigh-highs and high-heels and nothing else, some want me in hooker boots (and want them left on the entire time we fuck), and I’ve had one prefer I come out in a business suit. I have one client who prefers I show up to his hotel room in just an overcoat, with nothing on underneath.
For an established client, I’ll walk out and we’ll start playing, assuming we’re in for the evening and that’s what he wants to do. For a new client, I’ll take those first few moments to orient him to my “rules of engagementW.” My dad was in the military and always used that term with us when we were growing up for much more than its original incantation. Everything had rules of engagement, or rules to play by. I adopted that phrase to describe my rules for touching me when I was a dancer, in fact. I’d explain to a customer that he could touch me on the legs and back, and could grab my hips to brace himself, but had to leave the boobs and the kitty alone. If he violated the ROE, the dance was over with no refund.
So it made perfect sense to bring the concept with me into this realm. Basically, my rules of engagement for professional fucks are:
- No restraints or tying me up
- No hitting me above the neck
- No scat play (play involving feces)
- Nothing that will leave serious bruises or permanent marks on my body
- My safe word is “red” (or three quick taps on him if I can’t speak). If I use it at any point, we have to stop instantly. Failure to abide by this will result in my leaving.
I’ll also ask the client to give me a safe word that he can use, just in case, and explain that, literally, anything and everything else is on the table – anything he’s ever seen in the wildest pornos is doable if he wants to try it. All holes are available for his use as he sees fit (as long as they’re covered in any place other than my mouth), and every inch of my skin can be used as a masturbatory aid if he wishes to avail himself of it. He can talk to me any way he wishes, and call me any word he can think of. I literally offer anything from a true GFE to a PSE for my clients, molded to what they want their experience to be like.
When I first adopted this philosophy, I expected I’d get a lot of requests for some really weird stuff. I was okay with that, wanting to use the encounters to further my own sexual experiences just as much as providing the client with the level of service he wanted. So far, though, the most outlandish things I’ve been requested to do involve facials, throat fucking, ass eating, and some really unique positioning (can you say piledriver?). I have been called some, uh, rather unique things, however. 
I anticipated having some clients who’d want to slap my tits, take their cocks out of my ass and have me go down on them, piss on me1, spit on me, or any number of other things I’ve seen done in porn. But, oddly enough, no one has requested any of that stuff. Most of my clients have been relatively conservative in bed (on the couch, on the floor, in the shower…), in fact.
I’m kind of surprised at this because I was under the assumption that guys use hookers to explore a lot of things that their regular partners won’t do. Of course, that’s why every one of my clients has had his cock deep in my butt, isn’t it?
You always hear the anti-prostitution crowd ranting about johns treating the hookers like shit, so I expected to encounter some abuse (for lack of a better word) by allowing such an open ended policy with the clients. That has not been my experience. I do know from reading the writings of other providers that their experiences have been different in many instances, though.
I know clients are nervous, anxious, and hesitant the first time they see me. That’s only normal, even if they’ve seen plenty of other providers. Any time you’re going to be engaging in up close and personal activity with a total stranger, you’re going to be a bit anxious unless you’re just terribly confident (which is relatively rare, and different for a paid interaction versus, say, a one-night stand). Every person is different and those first moments of the encounter are almost always very tenuous. So I know this contributes to the lack of weirdity in the activity we engage in during our initial appointments. I’ve had guys want to ejaculate onto my face who couldn’t pull the trigger when it came time – guys who say they’ve not had a problem unloading on another provider’s face, for example.
A lot of it has to do with their being surprised at the open-endedness of my rules – many guys find it a bit intimidating, I suppose. Many providers will run down a long list of “I don’t do this, this, and this,” when they show up. They outline a very well-defined set of boundaries the client must operate within, and the client feels comfortable operating within those guidelines (as does the provider, I might add). There’s not anything wrong with doing it that way, I just prefer an inverse approach – I allow the clients to set the boundaries. This throws things into a state of psychological confusion for many clients, and they’re often not sure what they want to do, how far they want to push me, or for that matter how serious I am about allowing them to do what they want.
The policy has garnered me a good number of return clients, however. I know because they’ve told me they feel freer to expand the boundaries when they’re ready with me, even if it does take them some time to get there. The more they see me, the more they tend to open up and explore, though sometimes I have to coax it out of them. Doing that covertly is one of my better skills, if I do say so myself. Still, none of them have made it to the point where I consider it a stretch.
In the end, though, I am providing a service for my client, and so long as he’s happy with the end result that’s all that matters to me. My personal sexual satisfaction is largely irrelevant since he’s the one who’s paying for the experience. If I get off, great. If not, I chalk it up and go on to the next appointment. Obviously, I want to get off (and I generally do, quite easily), but my services aren’t about me. Otherwise, my rules of engagement would require he perform oral on me.
So far, I’ve not had anyone remotely come close to make me use my safe word, by the way.
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I always enjoy seeing these little glimpses into your work. Thanks for sharing.
Another well written and thoughtful post. I am somewhat surprised too at the conservative nature of the encounters you’ve described. But perhaps that has to do with as you said the open ended nature. Some people derive enjoyment or power or both from the taboo. If you are more amenable then perhaps that is removing that kink factor. OR I also suspect that at $500 /hr you are seeing a better quality of person who isn’t just looking to get his rocks off. They can get that “dirty” or offbeat stuff from CL for less.
More importantly, my top guess would be, You. Your words and personality as I’ve seen them engender respect and I would think in person that’s where the reticence to fully let the kink out may lay.
Hence the propensity to have to draw it out over more frequent contact.
I have paid between $60 for a HJ and $350 for an hour with MSOG with women and can tell you from what I gather from speaking to most of the women (I find the whole sex work concept fascinating) is that most guys are very respectful of the women they hire. The number one thing they seem to want is enthusiasm. Openness is great, but just the attitude of “Hey, let’s have fun!” seems to be the most sought after thing from the men.
The most requested things by clients (according to my very un-scientific poll) seem to be COF and then Greek. Some women will charge a premium for Greek and it is hit and miss with COF. What I am seeing a lot of here locally on the boards I frequent, are providers advertising Strap-on play. I don’t know what your experience has been with that, but it seems most of the local women are more than willing to do that. WS are out there, but I am not sure if it goes both ways, or just provider on client and not vice versa.
I know the motivations behind my “kinks” (Greek, Asian – receiving and giving) are based on something that I have done or had done to me before and enjoyed, or something that I have fantasized about (WS) but been afraid to ask a partner. Something about knowing that if you are paying and if you ask, the worst she can say is “No” and at the end of your appointment you leave and it isn’t brought up for-fucking-ever, makes it easier to be comfortable asking.
I wish people could become more comfortable with their sexuality and believe that if both people have fun and enjoy it, you are normal.
My 2 cents. Email me if you would like to ask more questions.
The lack of asking for “odder” things doesn’t really surprise me. The biggest sexual issues in most relationships are a lack of communication between the pair and what each person wants from their partner- in many cases based on fear. The whole “if I tell her what I really want, she’ll freak out and not want to be with me” thing that pings the back of your mind. And I guess that, while procuring the services of a professional may make it seem like it would be easier to get around that, I’d bet some men still think that they might be judged by the professional in the same way that their partner might have and are reluctant to truly expound on what theie desires truly are.
Of course, that’s just a guess. I could be completely full of it.
NO RESTRAINTS? :(
I’m curious as to where you got/what made you decide to use that disclaimer. I ask because it seems highly unlikely that such a disclaimer would have any real effect (although I say that as someone who only had a mediocre grade in crim, so what do I know). But if it does have a real effect I’d be interested in reading the cases supporting it.
It is true, I often would like to ask for more and yet don’t want it hanging out there to be judged if I get “No” as answer. And I respect her boundaries always and as the above poster said, I really like genuine enthusiasm and enjoyment of time shared. My marriage was mostly sexless and now that I am divorced, I realize I simply trying to add this back into my life by these encounters, but the brevity and inconsistency obviously still leaves me sad. But on the flip side I love these encounters because they are short-lived and without complications. And I love when we can have some intelligent, honest discussion, sometimes even just talking about relationships for much of the time.
Fascinating post, I guess I was correct after I first started to read your blog. Now I really hope you’ll modify that rule!
Stephanie, glad you’re enjoying it.
Manos,
OR I also suspect that at $500 /hr you are seeing a better quality of person who isn’t just looking to get his rocks off.
That would be my guess as well. I perhaps should’ve made the point in my post about the type of client who sees me is typically a bit more…refined (for lack of a better term) than what other workers might see.
Thanks for your comment.
Brian,
The number one thing they seem to want is enthusiasm. Openness is great, but just the attitude of “Hey, let’s have fun!” seems to be the most sought after thing from the men.
I definitely agree with you on that. I know in the reviews of providers that I’ve read, one of the biggest complaints many of the reviewers will post revolve around the escort being too mechanical and not seeming to be into what she’s doing. Of course, a lot of women would prefer not to be doing this to begin with, so that is perfectly understandable. That’s where reviews can come into play in the positive (and why I offer a money-back guarantee since I don’t allow reviews).
I try to convey right off the bat with a client that I am there to provide him with a fun time and part of that involves being as open as I am about what I’ll do while we’re there.
The most requested things by clients (according to my very un-scientific poll) seem to be COF and then Greek
My experience has been the reverse of that. Every one of my clients has asked for anal and about 2/3 of them have asked for COF (even when offered to them). Again, though, as Manos pointed out, that may speak more to the clients I am seeing than anything else.
I appreciate your comments, sir.
Marc,
I’d bet some men still think that they might be judged by the professional in the same way that their partner might have and are reluctant to truly expound on what their desires truly are.
That wouldn’t surprise me at all. I made the statement about the anti-prostitution crowd always making these assertions about guys treating us with no respect, and the point you make kind of synchs with what I said about that not being accurate.
That’s one reason I try to convey to them on the front end that they can try anything they’d like to try – to let them know that it is okay to go there if they wish.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I don’t think you’re “full of it.”
M, you know that wouldn’t apply to you, dude.
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I’m curious as to where you got/what made you decide to use that disclaimer.
My attorney.
I ask because it seems highly unlikely that such a disclaimer would have any real effect (although I say that as someone who only had a mediocre grade in crim, so what do I know). But if it does have a real effect I’d be interested in reading the cases supporting it.
I’m not aware of any case law involving this specifically (though, admittedly, I haven’t spent a lot of time looking).
The biggest issue I’d have is trying to convince a jury that the meeting wasn’t specifically for the purpose of having sex. The disclaimer goes to that, as does the other information on my web site, and even here. As I’ve said on several occasions, I make no guarantee that we’re going to have sex, and that’s not why I schedule the appointment. If it happens, it happens. A jury will decide whatever they decide if it comes down to that point.
Briantwo (a different Brian?)
It is true, I often would like to ask for more and yet don’t want it hanging out there to be judged if I get “No” as answer.
Thanks for confirming that point. It is sad, really, that this is illegal so that you can’t engage in a real discussion beforehand with a provider to work out specifically what you might like to try. The reality is, of course, that most are not going to be into the wilder sexual activities, largely because of their own personal aversion to many of them. It’d be helpful if you could locate a provider who’d indulge you in those activities without running the risk of being arrested for solicitation. Maybe one day we’ll get to that point.
And I love when we can have some intelligent, honest discussion, sometimes even just talking about relationships for much of the time.
That part is highly underrated, you’re right. You don’t hear much about that part of the engagement when people discuss this line of work. In a two-hour appointment, my client and I may engage in sex for as little as 30 minutes total. We spend the rest of the time talking about all kinds of stuff. It’s interesting because, even though the sex is enjoyable, actually communicating with someone, even if it is a paid appointment, can be quite cathartic and a fun part of the overall experience.
Thank you, sir, for taking the time to share your thoughts on this.
Richard,
Fascinating post, I guess I was correct after I first started to read your blog. Now I really hope you’ll modify that rule!
I am leaning toward doing so. Stay tuned.
A personal note to all of you guys, thank you for the comments. It is extremely enlightening to hear your perspective on this. You’ve all made me a little more intelligent about these types of things, and for that I am very grateful.
I have the same policy – it seems to shock people. My only restriction (aside from no bruises, scars, scat) is no Greek cowgirl. It just isn’t even remotely enjoyable so I prefer it from behind or even missionary. Guys don’t have a problem with this – and most are really surprised it’s the only restriction.
And, much like you, almost no one takes advantage of it.
Sidenote off topic kind of thingy:
Read the waterplay story and was wondering something. Do you still use Eros lube? Is it good? I use Wet Platinum Premium which is a silicone body glide that has equally good reviews. I started using it for personal use in…2005ish and it just seemed natural to use it and the condoms I liked (Durex Ultra Thin, purple and black box) when I started working. Though I’m really liking Amore condoms, at least on my toys.
Hey, Missy.
no Greek cowgirl. It just isn’t even remotely enjoyable so I prefer it from behind or even missionary.
I’ve not had anyone try anal in cowgirl. I could see that being, uh, less than enjoyable. I prefer it doggy or reverse cowgirl myself.
And I am still using Eros, but that’s because I had a huge supply of it. I believe (I could be wrong) that someone bought them out or they’re not making lube under that name any longer. When I get ready to buy some more, I’ll have to do some research to see what I’ll get. Eros works very well, though. If it is still made (or just renamed), I’ll probably restock with it.
Yes indeed, this is a different Brian than the other fella! :)
I really do think it’s great, Alexa, that you reply personally to the posted comments. Having a dialogue here is great for open communication, clearing up any mysteries and sometimes wonderful for just sharing stories from both sides.
So when will you visit L.A. so we can talk about shared music interests? :)
Brian #2
I really do think it’s great, Alexa, that you reply personally to the posted comments. Having a dialogue here is great for open communication, clearing up any mysteries and sometimes wonderful for just sharing stories from both sides.
Absolutely. This is as much for my benefit as it is for my readers. I like to learn from you guys.
So when will you visit L.A. so we can talk about shared music interests? :)
I am seriously considering touring LA late this summer. Keep your eyes on the site for any updates.
I noticed that Condoms were left off of the ROE, but you have specifically talked about them before. Is this such a basic understanding that it was left off, or do you find it optional with those regulars you trust? just curious for discussion’s sake.
David,
I noticed that Condoms were left off of the ROE, but you have specifically talked about them before. Is this such a basic understanding that it was left off, or do you find it optional with those regulars you trust?
I kind of referred to that when I said, All holes are available for his use as he sees fit (as long as they’re covered in any place other than my mouth)…. Condoms are always required except for oral.
I have on one occasion allowed a client inside me without a condom for a unique situation, and am not wholly averse to allowing that in the future. It’d have to be with a regular with whom I’d had a long relationship and knew he wasn’t seeing anyone else, though.
you know, i did read that, and sat there wondering for a minute was that meant. for some reason i was thinking you meant your holes covered… duh. sorry.
That’d make for some interesting attempts at penetration.
Hi I just want to say that I am so happy that there are women like you out there that do sex work and blog about it. I want to become an escort and I have been researching my ass off just trying to pick up as much information as possible before I go an by an escort book.Thats how I came across your wonderful website. I am so interested in sex I have tried many things but there is still more to explore. I am also bisexual I use to think there was sumthen wrong with me for always wanting to watch lesbian porn and not really straight porn so much, but I enjoy sex with men. I don’t hang around to many girls I only have few friends that are girls (like I can seriously count them on one hand) but I would love to have a girlfriend more than I would want a boyfriend lol (I don’t know) and I’ve also experimented with girls but not as much as I would have liked to. But I have this deep longing inside to become an escort I don’t even want to bother with an agency I just want to come straight out with my website and be independent. I believe I would truly enjoy this and be able to set my own hours and go to school. I’ve always wondered what women do when the retire from sex work. Did they spend wisely while they were escorting and managed to save up enough money over the years to just quit the business and go live life on an island somewhere peacefully (lol), or just live comfortably without the need to have a job(of course this depends on how much amount of years you were working and how much you charged and how much you saved)? I know some get married and then go to school and get degrees and then start a career or some hit rock bottom and theres some who right books and make money off of that I’ve just always wondered. I am 18 so I’m pretty sure I’ll have time to figure it all out while I live my life as a sex worker. I’ve also always wondered how some women never get arrested I think that is amazing and I hope I can have a smooth experience minus the arrests!
Happy Endings! (lol)
I also wish you the best of luck as well!
Thanks, Lanae, for your comments and well wishes.
If you’re interested in getting into escort work, there are several of us on Twitter that would probably be willing to help you out with some of the basics. I do encourage you to get Amanda Brooks’ two books on the subject and read them first, though.
Hello,
I hope you don’t mind me posting on this thread but I am also interested in escort work in England.. I have ordered the books you have recommended and looked at other websites as well. I just have a question for you though – do you think there is an upper age limit on this? I am in my mid-thirties but can pass for younger..
Thank-you for this amazing web-site – nothing like this in England.. Or if there is I haven’t come across it. I think it’s wonderful to get the other side of this coin rather than the stereotypical images that we are constantly fed by the wider media. Thank-you..
I’d imagine that even when you’re paying, it’s still difficult for many guys to ask for their deepest, most private desires, because the reason they haven’t asked their previous girlfriends/whatevers to do said act is because there’s an underlying lack of confidence.
Point in case: my desire to get rimmed. I have issues asking providers to do that to me, even though I’ve done it to them every time. I gathered the nerve once to ask, got turned down, and felt awful. I do shave down there and have no hygiene issues, but overall I know I don’t have the most perfect body…I’ve got kind of a flabby ass, in other words.
Therefore, I have serious doubts anyone would feel comfortable doing that to me. Guess I’m weird, but even if I’m paying I want the person I’m with to enjoy what she’s doing. I’m rambling. But hopefully I’ve gotten my point across…
So someday far far away a cup of coffee will cost me $125?
It really seems an interesting ride, it seem your learning a lot about, yourself, sociology, and life in general. Seems to be a pretty fascinating turn of events for a part time job.
I spend days in an office dreaming of ways to get out. Seems like you spend days trying to figure out how to get deeper in.
PS any puns purely intentional
Thank you for your reply I will see you guys on twitter. I saw her books and they seem very interesting she is one of the people I wrote down to get an escort info book from!
I’m so glad you posted this. I was curious about etiquite regarding such a delicate topic. It’s like walking into a head shop to buy a pipe or grinder. How do I say, “Hi, I just started smoking pot and I need some tips without coming across like a jerk.”
I think what I find amazing about you is your openness and acceptance. I was able to think, “If I could do anything I wanted to a girl, what would it be?” Of course, the only draw back is, I like to tie girls up. But, I understand the safety issues with that, not everyone is capable of good work or trustworthy.
Does the consultation count as the $500 hour? What about chatting afterward? I’d love to pick your brain more.
Sharpie,
Point in case: my desire to get rimmed. I have issues asking providers to do that to me, even though I’ve done it to them every time. I gathered the nerve once to ask, got turned down, and felt awful. I do shave down there and have no hygiene issues…
The thing i, as I’m sure you realize, many people aren’t even comfortable doing some of those things in their private lives, so they’re sure not going to do them professionally. That’s why I lament the fact that you can’t discuss these things as a prelude to the meeting. You have no way of knowing beforehand, and getting shot down in the middle of the appointment can be a bit, well, deflating.
Guess I’m weird, but even if I’m paying I want the person I’m with to enjoy what she’s doing.
You are not weird. In fact, client like you are what I (and most other providers) prefer.
Stephen,
It really seems an interesting ride, it seem your learning a lot about, yourself, sociology, and life in general. Seems to be a pretty fascinating turn of events for a part time job.
Agreed. It is turning out to be an interesting and educational experience, much as I had hoped.
PS any puns purely intentional
I didn’t doubt otherwise.
karcus,
I think what I find amazing about you is your openness and acceptance. I was able to think, “If I could do anything I wanted to a girl, what would it be?” Of course, the only draw back is, I like to tie girls up. But, I understand the safety issues with that, not everyone is capable of good work or trustworthy.
I like to think that I’d eventually become comfortable enough with a regular client to allow them to do that if they wish. I have one or two now that I could easily entertain being tied up by. I just don’t see them having that in them, however.
Does the consultation count as the $500 hour? What about chatting afterward? I’d love to pick your brain more.
Aren’t you on FL? You can pick there (at no cost!).
In an appointment, though, the time is paid for, and that would include any activity we engaged in, chatting or otherwise.
Welcome to my log, btw.
I read this blogpost when it first when up and wanted to respond in a thoughful manner (and less off-the-cuff than I did in response to Back Tattoos). That being said, I waited until now and see that there are 34 comments in the que ahead of me. This post definitely generated some interesting feedback…..
First, I have definitely fantasized about meeting you and would love to have you swallow my cock. Second, while I’ve written reviews about others I’ve seen, I haven’t reviewed anyone in a long-time (too time consuming and all-together-unfair) and understand and appreciate your new reviews rules. Of late, I’ve taken to seeing a few women on a semi-regular basis rather than always looking for someone new. That takes the guessing game out of it, and gives me confort in knowing that some of the things I like most—kissing and DATY—are going to happen. As for your ROE, they are all quite reasonable, and are things I’d request for me as well (since I don’t want to go home and have the Mrs. find evidence of my extracurricular playtime).
I think it’s interesting that you had expectations about what clients would want from you (You Wrote: “I anticipated having some clients who’d want to slap my tits, take their cocks out of my ass and have me go down on them, piss on me, spit on me, or any number of other things I’ve seen done in porn. But, oddly enough, no one has requested any of that stuff. Most of my clients have been relatively conservative in bed (on the couch, on the floor, in the shower…), in fact).
For me, it’s not so much that I want to see a hooker because I want to explore things my wife won’t do (exception: blowjobs and anal) but because sometimes I need an escape with someone who isn’t my wife, someone that I can have sex with and vent to about some of the things in my life that aren’t perfect. Honestly, I don’t really want to slap anyone’s tits, but do want to kiss, touch, caress and nibble on them (bite if she asks me too). And I have no expectations or requests for Ass-to-Mouth, but would be open to trying watersports in the right situation.
When I first started paying for sex—which originally happened by accident at a strip club in NYC—I was nervous. I found some safe incall places, and then as I got more confident, moved onto independent incall and outcall, and have stayed with that in recent years.
And I agree with others who say that enthusiasm is the most important attribute, and you have that in spades.
Ron,
First, I have definitely fantasized about meeting you and would love to have you swallow my cock
Noted. :lol;
For me, it’s not so much that I want to see a hooker because I want to explore things my wife won’t do (exception: blowjobs and anal) but because sometimes I need an escape with someone who isn’t my wife, someone that I can have sex with and vent to about some of the things in my life that aren’t perfect.
That’s an excellent point. Most of my married clients (those who’ve discussed it with me) have pretty much said the same thing. The sex has gotten into a dull routine, even when they’ve worked to make it more exciting, and the trysts they have with me allow them to experience some sexual excitement that isn’t there for them any longer. This is especially true for guys in their 40s, I’ve noticed. And, as you also point out, being able to talk to someone is just as beneficial as having someone to fuck when you want it.
And I agree with others who say that enthusiasm is the most important attribute, and you have that in spades.
I like to think I do. I agree it is important, and I think it is one of the things that allows me to keep my regulars for as long as I do.
Thanks for the comment and perspective, sir.
It’s not even the dull routine—Saturday morning I climbed back into bed after dropping the kids off at my parents’ house. After we both got some extra sleep, my wife rolled over and moved my arm over her breast, letting me know she wanted some playtime. Usual foreplay ensued–kissing, breast/nipple play, cunnilingus; she then grabbed my cock and stroked me a bit, before I climbed on top for intercourse……But afterwards, she has a list of errands and discussion items…..just once I’d like to have sex with none of the nagging afterwards…..Just normal conversation and maybe a second romp would be nice for a change…..
I wanted to add a postscript to Alexa and Missy and welcome comments from others….
Missy commented that one of her additional rules is “no Greek cowgirl” because “it just isn’t even remotely enjoyable so I prefer it from behind or even missionary” and Alexa responded by noting that she hasn’t “had anyone try anal in cowgirl” but that she “could see that being, uh, less than enjoyable.”
I am short and stocky, so doggy (vaginal or anal) has never really worked well for me. But I have enjoyed vaginal and anal intercourse with her in the reverse cowgirl position and haven’t gotten any complaints.
^^ Reverse cowgirl can be very comfortable for anal. You can lean forward, or backwards on your hands, so your asshole lines up with the cock a lot better, and you can adjust. Not to mention the guy can see the penetration going on a lot more clearly..
The cowgirl position when doing anal is just… completely at the wrong angle. The… alignment isn’t right. So, being in an uncomfortable position and then trying to move up and down/side to side… not easy, or very pleasurable.
Missionary works well with me, too.
Your blog is so witty and informative. Sometimes the obvious escapes the men who do all their thinking with their smaller brain than their bigger brain. If only they had a vagina, they could make so much more sense
I amuse myself, if nothing else. Take care and happy blogging to you Alexa.
Nice blog, very nice. I am admirer of Sisters of Mercy and will bookmark this for a read. As a photographer of sexyness, I’m pretty sure we are somehow in the same line of work. The female models come to me wanting a certain kind of sexual attention…I do my best and in my case, I need to judge where the boundaries are and still make it fun. Oh, and make great photos too;-)
Thanks for the reply, Alexa. The fact you take the time to reply when you have something to contribute in response is appreciated. Especially when the commenter had to gather their nerve to post said comment, even anonymously.
Glad I reached this post as I approach my upcoming first encounter — next Tuesday! I have learned much from your writing and feel I am pretty well prepared for my two hours in heaven!