I‘ve made mention a time or twenty about Rick, my “morning client.” He owns his own business and occupies an entire floor of a huge building in the Financial District here in town, about 10 minutes from my apartment. He was originally referred to me by another client. Apparently they were talking with one another and Rick allowed that he was tired of getting sex from his wife once a month or less and when he did it was just being quick oral followed by missionary or doggy style vaginal sex. It had been like that for several years now. So the original client suggested that he might find me…entertaining. As it turns out he does, and has for several months now.
Rick travels a lot and is in town only about 10-15 days out of each month. When he’s in town, though, he likes for me to come by around 6AM each day to see him. He has an elevator to his private office that he shares with one other person, and that person doesn’t come in until after 8 each morning. So I drive into the garage, park, get out and go right up to his office. I even have a parking pass so he no longer has to reimburse me for my parking expenses every time I come by.
A typical appointment with him usually follows one of three scenarios, depending on what he’s in the mood for that day.
He’s a huge fan of my oral skills. In fact, most mornings, he just prefers me sucking his cock, quite often with him sitting in his chair, his pants down around his ankles. He’s particularly fond of throat fucking me, with me hanging my head over the arm of the couch in his office, and has mentioned several times the arousal he gets from the visual he sees when his cock disappears into my mouth. Once my throat relaxes, I can let someone fuck my face just as vigorously as Sasha Grey can, so he can pretty much just rail away. 1 Even after as many times as he’s done that, he still won’t last long doing me that way. He doesn’t really care for giving facials, though. He’s done it a couple of times but I can sense that he’s uncomfortable with it. He’d rather just cum in my mouth – that way there’s no real mess to clean up.
There are some days when he only wants anal. He has to let me know when that’s the case so I can prepare properly. I go to the bathroom in his office and squirt a bit of lube into my rectum, then go out and we take care of business. The lubed condom has enough to get him inside and the silicone-based lube in my butt allows him to continue without us having to stop and re-lube it up every few minutes. Some days I just bend over the edge of his desk or the back of his couch, he’ll stick his cock right in and pound away for about 10-15 minutes until he cums.
On occasion he’ll want some combination of oral and vaginal sex, sometimes even with a dose of anal thrown in. We only have a limited amount of time for each encounter, though. Going through all of the machinations involved with all of the positioning necessary to do that takes a bit too much time for most days. Usually, he’ll ask for this when his executive assistant is going to be out of the office.
He also really enjoys dirty talk. His wife won’t even utter words like cock, pussy, or even the word fuck. I could, in all likelihood, talk him into a manually unassisted orgasm. 
When he first asked about me doing this, I balked at meeting him every morning. I am pretty much a night owl, and getting me up at that time of the morning is not the easiest thing in the world to do. Throughout my college career I have avoided any classes before 10AM if at all possible specifically because I had to sleep in to get my beauty rest. But, when he agreed to pay my full hourly rate, and I calculated what that would allow me to make for a few minutes worth of work each morning, I agreed. 2
There are weeks where he is in every day, and there are weeks where he’s not in at all. Another plus is that he doesn’t care what I show up in – I don’t have to get up, take a shower, and get all made up/dressed up. I usually just throw on a sweatshirt and sweatpants, sans underwear of any kind. There’ve been a couple of times when it was fairly warm, that I ditched my clothes in the elevator and walked out into his office naked. I haven’t done that in a while, though, because he says he doesn’t know if the inside of those things are monitored with cameras or not.
I mentioned before that his office has glass outer walls – he’s on a corner and surrounded by glass walls on two sides. I keep asking for him to fuck me up against those windows, but he’s concerned that someone across the street will see us and report it! I suspect anyone seeing us would do something other than report it, but I respect his desire for privacy.
He doesn’t talk about his wife or family at all, though he has photos of them on his desk. He’s had appointments with me in the evenings, but those are rare since when he’s in town, his wife would likely miss him. I’ve asked him a couple of times why he only sees me, and doesn’t branch out and experiment with some other providers. He’s just gotten comfortable with me, he says, and adds, “I like your enthusiasm for what you do. You have no idea how arousing it is to fuck someone who really enjoys being fucked.”
Of course, I didn’t tell him that, yes, I do indeed know exactly what he’s talking about. 
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While your enthusiasm may be sexy, it can no way be sexier than your attitude or your intelligence. I love how you write about your experiences.
Alexa – I just found your very interesting website today through the guys at 2 Blowhards, which, despite its name, is not really a site concerned overmuch with sex.
It’s obvious to me that you are very intelligent and, well, very sexual, so I thought I would take advantage of the wonderful plus side of the Internet and ask you something that I’ve always wanted to ask someone like yourself. Here goes:
Sex is extremely important to everyone, the beautiful as well as the unattractive. For those who are attractive, and who, as a consequence, are valued sexually by others, this is a good thing. For those who are not, and who as a consequence have had a strong desire placed in them that they can do nothing but suffer through, this is a challenge.
It’s always seemed to me, from a young age, that these two groups of human beings, though obvious all human, are living very, very different lives, though sharing the same society. I often don’t think that the attractive people really realize that there is another world out there that is very different from the one they inhabit.
It’s just such a different experience, I can hardly imagine. Help me imagine it……What is it *like* to walk into a room and know that the people in the room find you sexually desireable, to have people steal glances at you, to know if you smile directly as someone you stand a good chance of making their head swim?
Thank you for your wonderful comment, Rebecca.
Kevin, you’ve made some very interesting observations, and concluded with a question that I’d like to answer in a future post, if you don’t mind. I kind of begin to touch on how this affected me in a post called “Meeting Nichole,” which should be up in a day or two. But there’s the larger question of what I experience when I walk into a room now that I think would be a good subject for a more elaborate post than just an answer in this comment block.
Thanks for stopping by and welcome to RPD.
Alexa, what do you think when clients like Rick tell you about their wives? Specifically, I’m talking about the wives who give it up, maybe, once a month and, then, don’t give up much. The sort who care so little that their husbands, like Rick, are desperate for “someone who really enjoys being fucked.”
Aren’t you worried about the STD consequences of swallowing? This isn’t meant to be judgmental, I’m just expressing curiosity–I always do covered blowjobs on calls, and never swallow–what made you decide this was an acceptable risk?
BL,
…what do you think when clients like Rick tell you about their wives? Specifically, I’m talking about the wives who give it up, maybe, once a month and, then, don’t give up much. The sort who care so little that their husbands, like Rick, are desperate for “someone who really enjoys being fucked.”
I just think to myself that if they ever found out what their husbands are doing, I wonder how they’d feel? It’s easy to “blame” them for the husband’s wandering, but in reality, he’s responsible for what he’s doing. I do think sex in a marriage is a two-way street, though, and when you commit to a marriage, you’re committing to sharing that part of you as well. I’m not sure it is legitimate to believe that someone should abstain from sex for years because one partner refuses to participate, though. It is a quandary.
Hey, Caty.
Aren’t you worried about the STD consequences of swallowing? This isn’t meant to be judgmental, I’m just expressing curiosity–I always do covered blowjobs on calls, and never swallow–what made you decide this was an acceptable risk?
The same thing that allows anyone to undertake risky behavior – basically a cost-benefit analysis. There are risks of acquiring STDs through unprotected oral, yes. I do what I can to mitigate those (inspections, discussing sex history with the client, etc.) and recognize that I could become infected.
“I just think to myself that if they ever found out what their husbands are doing, I wonder how they’d feel? It’s easy to “blame” them for the husband’s wandering, but in reality, he’s responsible for what he’s doing.”
Alexa, your phrasing suggests that, on some level, you disapprove of your married clients. Am a wrong? Do providers discuss this aspect of their work?
B.L.
Alexa, your phrasing suggests that, on some level, you disapprove of your married clients. Am a wrong? Do providers discuss this aspect of their work?
It’s not that I “disapprove” of what they’re doing (that’d be way hypocritical). In fact, Amanda Brooks said to me that, if it weren’t for marriage, we’d be out of work.
I do often wonder what goes through guys’ minds when they decide to cheat on their wives, though. Do they rationalize it by saying “my wife won’t put out,” or “my wife won’t do X?”
Do we discuss it? Hell, yeah! lol And some providers are hypocritical about it, too, which I find terribly odd.
“Do they rationalize it by saying ‘my wife won’t put out,’ or ‘my wife won’t do X?’”
I don’t view this as a rationalization. Men are attracted to women because they’re interested in sex. (Not, as many women seem to believe, to obtain laundry or cooking services.) Having established relationships via sex, the relationships can grow to include companionship, children, business partnerships, etc.
If the woman unilaterally decides there will be no sex, or that certain sex practices are no longer in her repertoire, what is the guy who has signed a (supposedly) lifetime agreement to do?
In my opinion, such a man who decides to use the services you (or other women) offer is not cheating. He has been cheated upon and, therefore, owes no further loyalty to that woman — at least on the sexual level.
B.L.
If the woman unilaterally decides there will be no sex, or that certain sex practices are no longer in her repertoire, what is the guy who has signed a (supposedly) lifetime agreement to do?
Get out of the contract (i.e., get a divorce) if that is a deal breaker for him.
In my opinion, such a man who decides to use the services you (or other women) offer is not cheating. He has been cheated upon and, therefore, owes no further loyalty to that woman — at least on the sexual level.
I disagree. Marriage is not exclusively about a sexual relationship, so the fact that she’s not having sex with him doesn’t give him carte blanche to go out and find it elsewhere in and of itself (unless she agrees to allow him to do so, which some clients’ wives do occasionally).
As I said above, if he finds that his sexual predicament is more than he’s able to deal with, he can get a divorce, OR he can ask her blessing to find it elsewhere. In my opinion, generally speaking, if she’s withholding sex (for whatever reason), she should probably allow him to find it elsewhere since that is a major part of a marriage commitment.
“Marriage is not exclusively about a sexual relationship, so the fact that she’s not having sex with him doesn’t give him carte blanche to go out and find it elsewhere…”
I guess this goes to show that providers are women before they are providers. In my opinion, one party’s withdrawal from sex means he or she also forfeits the right to control what the other person does sexually. Period.
But on one level, you’re correct: Marriage is not just about sex. It’s about children, business partnerships, elderly relatives who need care, home. That’s why so many of your clients find sex quietly on the side – so they can maintain the rest of their lives without disruption.
Alexa, take off your provider hat for a moment and answer this as a woman: On what grounds does a woman — any woman — think she can cut off her husband sexually and presume to control what he does as a substitute? How do you explain such gall?
And I was right: You DO disapprove.
More, apparently most providers disapprove. Which gets back to my point about providers being women first.
B.L.
It is becoming quite clear to me you just have issues with women in general.
Alexa, take off your provider hat for a moment and answer this as a woman: On what grounds does a woman — any woman — think she can cut off her husband sexually and presume to control what he does as a substitute? How do you explain such gall?
You make the assumption that when a woman is no longer sexual with her husband she’s doing it to spite him or something. That’s not always the case. Many women just lose interest in sex as they age, and in many cases never had much of a sex drive to begin with.
And if she did elect to withhold sex from him, he needs to figure out why and deal with it. It sure as fuck doesn’t give him an unencumbered license to go out and find it somewhere else, period. If he’s going to do that, then it needs to be called what it is – CHEATING.
You also make it sound like women are the only ones who have a problem with their spouses cheating on them. I can assure you that’s not the case, either. It’s not a “woman” thing.
But, to answer your question directly, when does a woman think she has the “gall” to cut her husband off? How about when he’s a fucking asshole who thinks he’s entitled to sex any fucking time he wants it without any concern for her feelings on the matter? How about then?
Don’t post on my blog any more. I have a very low tolerance for misogynists here, and you’ve exceeded your welcome.
BL,
Yes, female providers are women first. I know that’s shocking but it’s the ugly truth. We look, act, smell and think like women.
Every sex worker has to come to her own conclusions about her work, her own relationships, her client’s personal relationships and societal expectations of relationships. Most of us do not condemn what decisions our clients make about their marital arrangements — even if what we desire in our lives is different, even if we have differing opinions. Disapproval doesn’t equal condemnation. (My personal feeling is that Alexa would tell Rick what she thought if the subject came up.)
Alexa quoted me and I’ve said it many times because marriage fuels the adult industry. Why is a different personal matter for each individual in each seperate relationship. I’ve also said that if everyone were truly honest about their own motivations and desires in a relationship and then honestly pursued those goals — there would be a lot more happy people in the world.
In the end, Alexa is giving Rick a small bit of satisfaction he isn’t getting elsewhere during his time on this planet. Their own peace (or unease) with the matter is really their own business.
XX
Interesting dichotomy here.
While you’re not outright condemning your client for his failings in all things monogamy, you certainly seem to have a negative opinion about what he’s doing. Yet you’re the one enabling the infidelity when all is said and done.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think you’re to blame here at all. He is. And to BL, I think you’re living in a dream world if you think a lack of sex gives either spouse an “out.” There are far too many circumstances and causes for a lack of sex in a relationship to make that kind of a blanket statement. My wife, for instance, has health issues and is on medication that murder her sex drive. And even though she offers to “service” me just to keep me satisfied, I know it won’t be very satisfying at all because I get turned on when I’m with a partner who’s into it.
But by your rationale, I should have free-reign to go fuck whoever I want simply because she’s no longer interested in sex? That’s ridiculous. Sure I miss making love to my wife on a regular basis, but eventually she will improve and we’ll be back to a good place. I’m not going to ruin that in the meantime by disgracing myself and her while I bang someone else.
Rick (and men in general) is responsible for his own actions. And while I believe it’s slightly hypocritical for Alexa to complain about his cheating right after she slept with him, in the end the onus is on him.
While you’re not outright condemning your client for his failings in all things monogamy, you certainly seem to have a negative opinion about what he’s doing.
I’m curious. What did I say that remotely suggested I have a “negative” opinion of what he’s doing. In my mind, I just stated the facts and ascribed no judgment to it whatsoever.
I think it was when you wrote this:
“It sure as fuck doesn’t give him an unencumbered license to go out and find it somewhere else, period. If he’s going to do that, then it needs to be called what it is – CHEATING.”
I don’t think I’m going out on a limb there by thinking that could be construed as a negative opinion of his behavior, and more specifically his failure to either divorce his wife or ask for her permission to seek sex outside their marriage.
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