You are clearly a sexual anarchist who has no real use for the social categories which can (and are perhaps intended to) police sexual exchanges between consenting people.

Indeed I am. I’d never thought of it as anarchist, but I sure do like that term. I’ll add that to the list of adjectives I use to describe myself.

Thanks for your thoughts.

A final thought on this…

I just took a peek over on that Livejournal site… and good lord, I don’t know whether to laugh or cry.

I think it was smart of you to shut it down and not let any more of their absurd comments thru here — they clearly need and want the attention. Such a shame that grown people seem to need to get every ounce of human validation in their lives from the internet.

And yes… they are reading here too.

The term “lowest common denominator” seems to apply here. lmfao!

Or maybe, “I see stupid people…”

Talk to you soon sweetie,

xoxo,
nina

I’ve found that presented gender ranks below “social situation” (one-night stand, ongoing relationship, bathhouse/sex party) and “individual negotiated dynamic” (when there’s been time for such negotiation beforehand) and, indeed, “level of experience (both with each other and individually” in determining the feel of the experience, the way it goes, etc.

That’s an interesting way to look at it. In fact, that generates an idea for a future post.

I suppose some might argue that “bisexual” isn’t even accurate, as the gender binary isn’t really something I subscribe to

You’re right, some people do not subscribe to the binary construct of gender. I don’t, in fact. With respect to this post, though, I made the point earlier that I wasn’t going to try to frame the post around all of the possible variations in gender.

In fact, my use of the term true bisexual here was a reflection of the fact that I enjoy being sexual equally with the two genders presented (and which was framed to reflect how most people understand the concept of gender in the first place). Many people prefer one gender over the other, and there are debates about whether or not someone who has a preference like that are either straight with a leaning toward gayness, or gay with a leaning toward straightness, etc. There’s a whole can of political worms there, to be sure.

As a matter of fact, I now embrace the concept of sexual fluidity, especially with respect to women. But that, too, is a subject for further discussion on a future post – beyond the original idea behind this post.

Anyway, thanks for dropping by.

Speaking as a bisexual man (at least some of the time in my life), I’ve found that presented gender ranks below “social situation” (one-night stand, ongoing relationship, bathhouse/sex party) and “individual negotiated dynamic” (when there’s been time for such negotiation beforehand) and, indeed, “level of experience (both with each other and individually” in determining the feel of the experience, the way it goes, etc.

I suppose some might argue that “bisexual” isn’t even accurate, as the gender binary isn’t really something I subscribe to.