Alexa’s Update # 3

July 7, 2008

I’m changing the name of my occasional updates from “Random Notes” to “Alexa’s Update” just so it makes more sense and so you guys don’t forget who’s writing them!   :lol:

So I had my first San Francisco date Saturday.  It went well.  I have another lined up for tonight (a “quickie” - 2-hour sort of thing), and one for Friday night.  I enjoyed Saturday’s very much - more so than I thought I would actually.  I am still wrestling internally with the belief that I am not supposed to find this work enjoyable, despite many other escorts telling me (and the world) they enjoy the work.  It just seems so…unnaturally surreal.

Many of you know from reading here that I have a strong desire to explore my submissive side, and one way I am incorporating that into my work is by advertising and promoting myself and my services to some of the sex clubs in the area.  There’s a huge variety of BDSM/Fetish clubs in SF, and if I can work out something with one or more of them to allow for a mutually-beneficial arrangement, I may do so.  More on this in the following weeks if something materializes.

I am a huge tennis fan (and have a pretty good backhand, myself).  I watched the Wimbledon Finals match between Rafa Nadal and Roger Federer yesterday - all 8+ hours of it, and I have to say I concur with those who say it is probably the best match ever.  Wow.

This girl HERE (YouTube) knows how to work a pole.  Damn, she’s flexible, and has some good upper body strength!  :shock:

I had one of my readers ask in an e-mail why I won’t discuss “work” with a client.  There are several reasons for this, actually.  First, it eliminates putting me at a potential psychological disadvantage.  Talking about work puts me in a position where I have to talk about intimate or personal details about why I do what I do, other customers, etc., and I’d rather avoid those altogether.  I sure don’t want to get into a position where I end up talking about one client to another - that would betray the trust that the client places in me that I’ll keep what I do with him/her confidential.  I talk about it here, but what you see here has been sanitized and I have time to think about what goes into what you see.  Talking about something off the cuff runs the risk of inadvertently exposing details about relationships that I have with other people.  And I’m sure you as a client wouldn’t want me to do that.

A second reason has to do with the nature of the work to begin with.  In the event that someone is setting me up, anything I say might be recorded and used against me.  The truth of the matter is that, even though the assumption is that I’ll be seeing a client to have sex with them, the date is technically just that - a date. We might have sex, but we might not - that is purely up to our discretion.  If the chemistry isn’t there (and, admittedly, the bar is lower than it might be if I were going out on a date I initiated), then we won’t be having sex.  So if I speak about other people who’ve paid me, and that I’ve had sex with them, then it makes it appear as though I am seeking payment specifically for the sex.  That, of course, is illegal.  It isn’t illegal to pay for a date, even if it gets to the point where sex occurs, so long as the sex wasn’t the intent of the payment.  If that makes sense.  It may be an issue of semantics, but semantics is often the difference between guilty and not guilty.  :lol:

It is supposed to be 105 F here Wednesday and Thursday!  What. The Fuck?  :shock:

I may have to avail myself of Baker Beach in the next couple of days.  ;-)

I think that’s it for today.  I’ll let everyone know how tonight goes.  Enjoy your week.  :kissy:

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Comments

11 Responses to “Alexa’s Update # 3”

  1. Keeley on July 7th, 2008 3:30 pm

    Holy Fuck, 105?! That sounds miserable. I guess if you go to the beach instead of water park with me to cool down I don’t have an excuse to hold your boobs. :cry: (not that I need an excuse :P )

    The club thing sounds interesting and I hope it works out for you. I would never want that for myself lmao, but I know you could really enjoy it. I’d definitely be interested in hearing if anything works out.

    Have fun tonight!

  2. nina on July 7th, 2008 3:41 pm

    Many of you know from reading here that I have a strong desire to explore my submissive side…

    “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” - Anaïs Nin

    Such a world of wonder awaits she who dares to blossom my sweet. Coloring outside the lines can be quite rewarding…

    Try and keep your naughty ass cool, too! :lol:

    xoxo,
    nina

  3. blackdog on July 7th, 2008 4:12 pm

    Well, I can hardly believe SF can actually get that hot - WTF, indeed! (The year I lived up there, it was always at least 10-15 degrees cooler there than in the East Bay.) But if it does, of course you must go to a clothing optional beach, to maintain your lack of tan lines gorgeousness.

    And as for the BDSM clubs, it seems some of your fiction may be coming to life? excellent!

  4. Alexa on July 7th, 2008 4:31 pm

    Yeah, everyone seems to be freaking out here about the temps. They’re really worried about the firefighters fighting all of those fires (none of which are very near SF, btw).

    Keeley,

    I would never want that for myself

    Never say “never” my dear. Two years ago, I would’ve said the exact same thing. Time has a way of changing one’s perspective. ;-)

    Goddess,

    Coloring outside the lines can be quite rewarding…

    I don’t think I ever actually colored inside the lines. Ever. :lol:

    blackdog,

    And as for the BDSM clubs, it seems some of your fiction may be coming to life?

    Actually, it isn’t just BDSM clubs. There are several other kinds of fetish clubs here. Like I said, I’ll expand more if/when it becomes appropriate. ;-)

    I am sitting here enjoying a book I got in the mail today, AND a package of Harry and David chocolate covered blueberries that Nikki sent me as a little surprise. :inlove:

  5. Keeley on July 7th, 2008 6:23 pm

    That’s true. I should be more careful with my words.

    BTW, chocolate covered blueberries really exist?! Whenever you talked about them I thought that those were your dream creation lmao. Sounds good and even sweeter that Nikki sent them.

  6. Alan on July 7th, 2008 6:50 pm

    First, congrats on your business success so far.

    Second, she really can work the pole, can’t she? That is like Olympic level pole dancing, if they had that event.

    It will only be 105 “inland,” which is not where you are. Your temperature will only be 96-98, so that’s great, isn’t it? Thank god all the SF apartments come equipped with great A/C units . . . . oh, wait.

    Glad you found Baker Beach.

    I can hardly wait to hear more about your BDSM exploration. Good luck!

  7. nina on July 7th, 2008 9:15 pm

    I don’t think I ever actually colored inside the lines. Ever. :lol:

    lmao! I thought understatement was supposed to be my thing! :P

    Have fun honeybunny…

    xoxo,
    nina

  8. Ally on July 8th, 2008 2:10 am

    I can’t wait to hear about any experiences you have in those clubs, that’ll be interesting for sure.

    Hope all went well last night. I’m sure you’ll make the most out of those two hours. :P
    … You guys and your blueberries. :lol:

  9. Iman on July 8th, 2008 8:41 pm

    Just wondering..when I visit, can I get a coupon or discount because you love me so much? :lurk:

  10. a scottish pineapple on July 9th, 2008 2:09 pm

    i don’t know about blueberries but the thousands upon thousands of miles between myself and this little vixen sure are giving me blue balls! :rollseyes:

  11. Shannon Caldwell on July 10th, 2008 2:41 am

    I wish I could do what that girl on the pole does… just to say I could do it…. and y’know… use it to be a super spy! :P

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