Sense-sational Sex
June 4, 2008
Have you ever walked into a room where someone had just gotten done having sex? And if so, did you notice the scent?
When people fuck, their pubic areas get all mashed together and all sorts of little particles of scent get released into the air. And those of you who’ve gone down on someone know that a person’s pubic area has a unique scent; there’s nothing else like it that I’ve ever encountered. So when you get two people together, and they spend all of those minutes intertwining bodies, sweating, grinding, mashing, thrusting, licking, slapping, and spanking each other, all sorts of scents are released into the air. This is the scent of sex.
If you’ve not had the pleasure, see if you can put yourself in a position where you can go into a room where you know two people just got done fucking. It may be hard if you’re the only one living in the house or you and your partner are the only two bumping uglies therein. But if you’re fortunate(?) enough to live with a roomie, or relatives, (or transients, whatever the case may be), see if you can catch him/her locked up in the room going to town with a partner, and when they’re done, go in and smell the room. You won’t pick up on it if you go into a room where you’ve been fucking, because the scents will already be entrenched in your olfactory canal. You have to sniff someone else’s. You can get a hint of it, though, when you get ready to kiss your partner after s/he’s gone down on you. When they draw close to your mouth to kiss you (you do allow your partner to kiss you after s/he’s had their mouth all over your naughty bits, right?), allow yourself to breathe in and smell your own scent. That scent, combined with theirs works to create that musky, characteristic odor that tells others you’ve been fucking. It’s almost like the “JBF look,” only different. 
Sex to me is a sensual experience. And by that I don’t just mean in the spiritual sense that many people think of when they hear that word. I mean that I enjoy the sex I have with someone else using all of my senses: sight, sound, taste, touch, smell, and intuition (that 6th sense). Think about that for a minute. Do you even concentrate on what it is like to actually see your partner during sex? Have you ever just stared into your partner’s eyes during all of that thrusting? Have you ever really listened to the sounds you two (three, four…) make when you’re mouth fucking his cock?
There are some excellent ways to isolate and explore each of your senses the next time you’re fucking your partner.
For example, to explore the sense of sound, have sex at night after it is dark outside. Make the room pitch black – turn off all the lights that you can see when you’re in the room, close the curtains so the outside lights (including that romantic moonlight) won’t intrude, and turn off everything that makes any noise whatsoever – any fans, the air conditioner (I know it’ll get hot – sweaty sex is fun, though, trust me), the television or radio – all of it. And when you’re in the heat of passion, don’t talk. Don’t say a fucking thing. Just listen to the sounds your partner’s making as s/he performs on you. If you’re a guy, listen to those slurps, licks, gurgles, gagging noises, and even grunts and groans as she goes up and down and worships your cock. If you’re a woman, listen to the sucking, licking and slurping sounds he makes as he lavishes all of that tongue worship on your engorged little clit and your swollen labia. If you’re the performing partner, listen to the little grunts and “oohs” and ”ahhs” your partner makes when you hit those special little concentrations of nerves that send sparks through his/her body.
Then, once penetration has occurred, listen to the slapping of bodies together, the slaps on your ass, the squeaking of the bed frame (or the car frame if you have bad shocks). Just don’t talk – don’t say a word (not even the requisite “fuck me harder”), and then when the orgasm(s) hit, listen to those grunts, growls, moans and groans. Listening to your partner having an orgasm is incredible – you can hear how much you’ve satisfied them in those unintelligible noises.
For the sense of touch, again, turn off all the lights, turn on the shower, and you and your partner step in and wash each other. Your hearing will be effectively reduced because of the rushing water and you won’t be able to see shit. You’ll have to run your hands all over your partner’s body (or you can use your boobs if you’re a female). The only way you’ll know where anything is is through the sense of touch. If you want to put your partner’s cock in your mouth, pussy or ass, you’ll have to use your hands to find it and guide it to where you want it to be.
Another way to explore the sensation of touch is to have sex in the rain completely naked. This works best if it is a light rain, slightly stronger than a drizzle. Find some place where you won’t be seen (i.e., your backyard), get naked, and go to town. Feel all of those little drops of liquid hitting you on the back as you and your partner are enjoying the other sensations you’re experiencing. If you get lucky, this will be combined with a good, cool breeze, raising those little chill bumps all over your body.
The vast majority of people just don’t really take the time to enjoy all of these sensations during sex. They tend to focus on just the feelings in their genitals to the detriment of all of their other senses. If you want to heighten the excitement you get out of a sexual encounter, make it a point to shift the focus out of that narrow little paradigm into one where you realize it as the full-body, full-spirit exercise it should be. Then, you’ll come closer to knowing what sex is truly supposed to feel like.
Obviously, there are the other senses to deal with as well, but I’ll address them in a bit more depth in a future post.
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Sex to me is a sensual experience. And by that I don’t just mean in the spiritual sense that many people think of when they hear that word. I mean that I enjoy the sex I have with someone else using all of my senses: sight, sound, taste, touch, smell, and intuition (that 6th sense).
Alexa!
What a brilliant post! And indeed — sex is about exploring and enjoying with all of our senses. Especially that sixth sense when we just know when it’s time to change position or change what we’re doing — it comes from that psychological and psychic connection we form with our lovers where we just “know” what they need.
I’ve always found my best lovers were the ones who were completely perceptive of those things and those senses.
Your descriptions of scent are also wonderfully constructed and articulated. Scent is such a powerful yet underrated sense, especially when it comes to sex. It’s releases powerful brain chemicals and our bodies respond to the scent of our partner. I know that I’ve read studies which research human pheromones and our sexual response to scent and how men can tell when they’re around a woman who is ovulating, and how women use scent to determine MMC factors in mating and in making a choice to mate.
As you well know… there is a difference between sexual desire and sexual arousal. Arousal is sooo influenced by those stimulation of senses.
Wonderful entry!
nina
I especially loved the part about the rain!
(a weakness of mine)
nina
Goddess,
I’ve always found my best lovers were the ones who were completely perceptive of those things and those senses.
Exactly right, that has been my experience as well. The best lovers in bed are the ones who bring their entire arsenal to the bed with them.
And WTF? Not even 5 minutes elapsed between the time I posted this and your comments. You must have been sitting on go!
And WTF? Not even 5 minutes elapsed between the time I posted this and your comments. You must have been sitting on go!
LMAO! Don’t get sassy with me or I’ll come spank your naughty little ass, and I can do it too!
The other thing I wanted to mention was your remarks about eye contact. I’m actually writing something on this my very own self. Bitch.
Oh you’re still my favorite professional slut Alexa…
xoxo,
nina
This is good stuff. I’ll try this soon….
Now that’s what I call a good post! There’s so much sensitivity and sensuality there - gentle - and yet edgy.
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